Are you a Winner or are you a Loser?
In sports, there are clear rules and regulations to determine who wins and who loses. Life isn’t that simple. As human beings, we might all be able playing the same game, but we’re definitely not playing by the same rules.
Success according to Dictionary.com is:
- the favorable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors; the accomplishment of one’s goals.
- the attainment of wealth, position, honors, or the like.
- a performance or achievement that is marked by success, as by the attainment of honors
- a person or thing that has had success, as measured by attainment of goals, wealth, etc.
Success by these terms is achieving one’s goals and accumulating wealth and status. These seem to be good general guidelines but still lack personal specificity. Life is not one size fits all, it needs to be tailored for a custom fit.
Society may thrust popular ideals of success on us but we are not passive victims to the status-quo. The beauty of life is that we are not left powerless. It’s our choice to accept or reject these standards. We possess the ability of interpretation to decide what every experience means to us.
Defining what success is in our lives in each area and overall is paramount. If we haven’t done that then how can we measure if we are successful or not? Success for me may differ than success for you.
Success is subjective to every story.
A chapter in my story was high school. An era when I underachieved. Missing many classes is an understatement. My absences would accumulate for days, weeks, and even in some instances months. I didn’t show up, so there’s no surprise I was failing.
A common perception of success in high school is getting 80% and above to increase one’s likelihood of enrolling in their desired college or university. That is success to the traditional education system, and not everyone fits into that. I certainly didn’t. That was unrealistic to where I was.
Success subjectively to me then was turning my 16% or 9% midterms into at least a 50% final grade. Success was just getting the credits needed to graduate. One can make the argument, “Hey James, just barely surviving high-school is not success,” and I would agree.
No one can be successful if they aren’t committed.
I was spitting in the face of my potential.
When somebody finds themselves in a hole, whether self-inflicted or not, the first step is winning back the moment. Climbing in the now. Positioning oneself correctly in the present to return to where you are called to be.
I just barely graduated high school a year late. This low-level success for me was perceived unsuccessful by most of society, but it positioned me for an opportunity for greater success. A year and a half later, I set a goal in my community library that I would attend the University of Toronto for Professional Writing and Communication.
To achieve that I enrolled into an adult education centre. It was at this institution that I attained the 5 university credits I needed while learning lessons from the people I connected with. At this time and place success for me was above 90% in each class. I came up short of that standard in one course.
At the University of Toronto, success for me moving forward is above a 3.0 G.P.A for each semester. But success for me at university isn’t just about grades. It’s more about learning about myself, sharpening my strengths, and adding value to the people I meet along the way.
Hey, even If everyone thought that only a 4.0 G.P.A made you successful, it would have no power over me. Success is subjective and once personally specified we can be empowered by living on our own terms.
At different phases in our lives our view of success may differ, but what’s important is that we define it. You should know where you are better than anyone else. Don’t be a slave to the standards of everyone around you. Define what success is in each area and overall in your life.
What is Ultimate Success in your life?
Let’s say one man is a business genius and financially free, is he successful? In that area yes, but what about ultimately? What if that man is critically obese, has a broken marriage, and his kids hate him? Is he ultimately successful?
Life’s not one-dimensional; it’s multifaceted. We are called to manage many areas of life simultaneously. We must balance all these sectors in the pursuit of success: the mental, the physical, the professional/financial, the relational, and the spiritual. It is in mastering this balance that ultimate success is manifested.
For me in high-school there was no vision of ultimate success which was why I didn’t achieve it. In adult education there was a standard of success in a certain area, but not overall for my life. Ultimate success can only be reached when defined.
Is it possible that you can be successful before you’ve fulfilled your dreams?
I see success not necessarily as just an endgame, but rather a state of being that completely pervades one’s life. Can someone successful as they achieve victories in the battles along the way, or are they only deemed successful by winning the war?
I feel success is deeper than just wins and losses. Success begins in the mind. It’s the good and bad experiences along the way that provide the character, habits, and mentality that build you into the person you need to be to attract success. I invite you to harness your imagination and write out what success is for you in each area of your life. Doing this will birth your vision into the physical realm.
The clarity of knowing where you’re aiming is essential to hitting the mark.
Are you Successful?
Maybe you’re unsure, but be sure of this, the answer to this question – all depends on you.
Even if you fall, Activate Your All.